Making Your Second, or Third, Marriage Work This Time

by | Apr 11, 2022 | Articles, Marriage Preparation

Are you heading to the aisle again? Congratulations! I wish you all the best.

But as happy as you may feel at this time, you may also be wondering will it be different this time? And do we really have what it takes to create a healthy, lasting marriage? These are great questions to ask because I believe it’s important not just to hope, but also to prepare for a successful marriage. Yes, even if it’s your first or third. And even if you believe everything is going beautifully, every couple can benefit from a marriage preparation course!

Honni Hayton Counselling offers a marriage preparation course that will help you and your spouse prepare for a successful marriage.  We’ve helped many couples prepare for their marriages, whether it was their first, second or third marriage. And we can do the same for you.

If this isn’t your first time down the aisle, there are a few things you’ll probably want to do differently if you want this relationship to last. In our Marriage Preparation Course, we provide a safe, comfortable environment to ensure your relationship has the right tools to get your marriage off to the best start possible. During the course we will build a foundation of trust and understanding where you as a couple can discuss things such as lessons learned from past relationships, making the blended family work and having realistic expectations.

A Marriage Preparation Course Prepares You for a Successful Marriage

In our Marriage Preparation Course we look at all aspects of your relationship. Moreover, we provide couples with an understanding of what areas to explore, how to communicate effectively, and how to manage stressors in a relationship. Additionally, we have modules just for couples heading into their second or third marriage, which include how to do things differently this time around.

Diving into the tough conversations with the support of a coach gives your relationship the support it needs for success. Furthermore, we will discuss children, finances, and where to live. Also, discussing things like relationship and individual needs, and career and financial goals will give you a good start to your marriage.

1. Avoid the mistakes from your previous marriages

If you are getting married again, we will gently explore your previous marriages, what went wrong, and how to prevent it from happening again. Relationships are hard work and there is always room for improvement. We focus on your strengths and how these can be applied to a successful marriage this time. Thus, you’ll begin your marriage with a clear understanding of expectations. You will learn about each other’s needs and excellent communication.

2. Improve your communication as a couple

Any relationship must have excellent communication skills – romantic or platonic. Learning communication will benefit you in all areas of your life. You will go on a journey of learning not only how to listen, but also how to respond healthily. We will work on identifying past triggers during stressful conversations. In marriage, you will have conflict. This is normal and to be expected. However, you must have the tools on how to work through the conflict.

Were you a runner? Or did you find yourself yelling? Perhaps you shut down. These aren’t healthy ways to handle conflict. It is important to unlearn these habits. We will teach you how to replace them with healthy responses.

3. Learn how to compromise

Ah, compromise. This is a challenging task for many. Learning to compromise can be a struggle. However, it is essential to realize that you need to think about your spouse. They are an important role in your life. You should discuss it with them. Anytime something comes up, remember to talk through it.

We will help you learn how to compromise and set healthy boundaries. Along with how to respect your partner’s thoughts and feelings.

4. Invest in your relationship

You love your partner. You are thrilled to marry the love of your life. However, there is always room for both relationship and personal growth. As you know, we are forever learning and evolving. With the guidance of our coaches you will learn ways to improve your relationship and maintain your spark. You will develop a deeper connection, and grow your love.

If you are considering remarrying, a marriage preparation course is an invaluable tool for strengthening your relationship. You will address the conflicts head-on in a safe and supportive environment. You will work together towards a brighter future for yourselves and your family. With the help of a qualified coach, it will be a rewarding experience. Don’t wait any longer – check out Honni Hayton Counselling’s Marriage Preparation Course, there’s a package to suit every couple!


Honni Hayton Counsellor

About Honni Hayton

A qualified, practicing counsellor, Honni Hayton has been helping people live their best life for over 20 years. She specialises in providing women’s counselling services, both in person and online. She also provides relationship counselling to help couples find happiness again.